February 21, 2014

Comparison


DSC_0069, © AmberWall
Being a little different doesn't mean you're not beautiful.

I attended another "resiliency training" meeting yesterday and the topic was based on how we, as women, are constantly comparing ourselves to others.  I know I am certainly guilty of it.  I find myself getting discouraged because I just don't feel like I measure up to a lot of my peers.  I know that's wrong and that I do have my own unique qualities, but sometimes it's hard to get out of that mindset, ya know?

How ironic is it that I heard from an old friend yesterday, telling me how when we were in elementary school together and I started to lose my hair, she worried that she wouldn't be "cool enough" for me now that I got to wear all these cool hats and be bald and stuff.  For one thing, I can't believe she of all people would think that because she was one of the coolest people I knew, but secondly, I was probably thinking the exact same thing - "Why would she want to play with me?  I'm this weird bald girl wearing weird hats and stuff."

On what basis are we comparing ourselves to others?  We are all blessed with unique talents and abilities, some more obvious than others, but who's to say that one quality is better than another?  Someone brought up a good point yesterday... What if we started comparing ourselves to Christ instead of trying to be like Him?  Just think how miserable and defeated we would always feel!  Luckily, it is our goal to be LIKE Him.  Some days we may fall a little shorter than others, but that's why we're here - to be better than we were the day before.

So, the point of all this is, I need to stop comparing myself to others.  I can find things about them that I admire and use those things to inspire me to be better, but I don't have to be THAT PERSON.


1 Happy Thoughts:

mostlyprobably said...

I love this! I am Mrs. Comparey McComparerson (yeah, I'm not even sorry) lately. I'm comparing myself to everyone, particularly those who are my age and have more than one kid. When there are probably people who are 30 with no kids comparing themselves to me! It's such a crazy situation that women put themselves in, and for what reason? It makes me an insane person. If you find the magic recipe that takes away our desire to have what someone else has, let me know please. :)

Also, I have never been cool. I have always been kind of a psycho. Thanks so much though! :)